06 Mar 2020
Whether you’re a chief bridesmaid charged with organising a fabulous hen’s night – or a generous girlfriend trying to ensure your favourite bride has a truly memorable final fling before her big day, holding a hen’s party is about so much more than hiring a stripper or ordering lots of cocktails.
In fact, pulling off a great hen’s night is something of an art, one that requires imagination, organisation and, most importantly, understanding that some brides-to-be don’t want strippers and cocktails.
“I’ve organised dozens of hen’s nights (and thousands of events) and can tell you that every bride – and every client – is different,’’ says Kara Fraser, co-founder of Secret Womens Business, a Melbourne-based events company specialising in creating hen’s nights that are as naughty or as nice as a bride wants.
“You can’t use a formula, certainly not for something as personal as a bride’s hen’s night. You must consider her personality, what she enjoys doing, the make-up of her guest list and, most importantly, what she wants from her hen’s night.
“Do that and you’re guaranteed to pull off a fantastic hen’s night that the bride will remember for many years to come.”
Hens night themes
Every great wedding should be preceded by an unforgettable hen party. The only problem is that so many hen party themes are played out and boring. How do you choose a party theme to make your night amazing? It’s time to get inspired. Check out these great ideas for hen party themes for a night your hens will absolutely love!
Kara, who has worked in Australia’s events industry for more than 20 years, describes herself as someone “who is ridiculously organised but knows a thing or two about throwing a good party,” adding that it’s a perfect combination for her line of work.
She says that even if you’ve never organised an event before, by listening to the bride’s wishes, being organised and having a backup plan, you’ll inevitably run a fabulous hen’s party.
But, despite her advice, the thought of organising a hen’s night is, often, terrifying to so many, which is why, Kara says, she and three fellow hospitality veterans decided to pool their skills – and their more than half a century of shared experience – to set up Secret Womens Business.
The company, which kicked off last year, takes a different spin on hen’s nights, offering themed events, such as Arabian Nights, which offers a Moroccan themed evening (right down to the tarot reader and Moroccan martini handed to guests on arrival) and the Mat Hatter’s Tea Party package, which kicks off with a classic high tea, massages and a hat for each guest.
Of course, Secret Womens Business also offers ‘traditional’ hen’s nights, complete with strippers, topless waiters and cheeky hen’s games, “but that’s not for everyone,’’ says Kara.
Oh, and if your bride isn’t a girly girl, she might prefer the Paintballing Princess packages, which allows the bride and her maids to get down and dirty.
“The trick to organising the perfect hen’s party is to think about the bride and what she wants and likes,” says Kara who has run everything from small restaurants and bars to some of Australia’s best-known events, including Melbourne’s famed Desperate and Dateless balls, a well as music festivals hosting more than 10,000 patrons.
Kara says that among the most important skills required when organising a hen’s night is the ability to plan ahead and to be a little creative.
“Not every bride wants strippers, but lots of brides do, so there are plenty of choices when it comes to activities.
“Don’t worry about a theme, you could have a lawn bowls high tea, a murder mystery hen’s party, a day out with the girls at a spa or even a trip to the footy, if that’s what your bride likes,” adds Kara whose business also runs girl’s nights out for birthdays and work functions.
The person organising your hen’s night should also have some sort of structure or running order in mind because, though landing up at a bar and planning to dance the night way can be loads of fun, you want it to be truly special.
They also need to be flexible, someone who can roll with the punches when things go wrong or change, as they inevitably will.
“If you’re organising a hen’s party and, perhaps, the stripper doesn’t turn up, or the drinks run out, the you need to be able to deal with those situations as quickly as possible and solve them.
“Follow those simple steps,’’ says Kara “and your hen’s party will run beautifully – and memorably – and, if any little hiccups do occur, well, the bride will never even know!”
A Classy Elegant Experience
A classy party theme is always a great choice. Wear your finest black dresses and jewels. Go out on the town, and keep it classy with sophisticated cocktails and hors d’oeuvres. It’s one of the best party themes for a bride and her hens who want a night to remember.
Start your warm up ladies, it’s time to drop it like it’s hot! Grab your beautiful bride to be and her best gals for a hens experience they won’t forget. Remember, this ain’t no average Melbourne Hens Party; this is a night filled with twerking, cocktails, a delicious noms and plenty of laughs! Throw on your best frocks and be prepared to dance the night away!
Throw a celebrity inspired white party, and create an amazing experience for the bride and her hens. Just be sure everyone knows the party theme well in advance, so they have time to choose the perfect, classy white dresses. You can enhance the experience with themed cocktails using only clear or white spirits. This is a great choice for brides looking for lush and lavish party themes.
Treat your hen to a truly fun & frivolity-filled soiree! Combine an afternoon of treasure hunt teetering around chasing clues & very dishy men…follow this with bubbly & a luxe stretch limousine cruise & a divine cocktail dinner party in our candlelit laneway bar! It’s an all-inclusive Melbourne hens package of pure, girly frivolity & fun!
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Kara’s top tips for organising a hen’s night
1) Send out Save the Dates or figure out how many people will be coming, as well as a date that suits best. This is crucial. Do this before you start looking at themes or venues.
2) Work out a basic structure but be sure to include a few surprises the bride doesn’t know about. Be sure to include a few fun things that will make her night.
3) There are no rules when it comes to organising a hen’s night. You can be as inventive as you want. There’s nothing you have to do! You’re never going to be able to please everybody so, when in doubt, go with a theme or celebration that the bride and her maids are going to think is awesome!
4) That said, do keep your guests in mind. too. If, for example, there will be a few older relatives attending but the bride wants a bit of a naughty hen’s party, too, hold something like a high tea in the afternoon and, once the older guests leave, the party can continue in the manner the bride wants. The bride doesn’t have to sacrifice her fun, she just needs to be a little flexible.
Maybe you prefer night gowns over black evening gowns. In that case, keep things casual with a pyjama party theme. The hens will love dressing in comfortable outfits, and playing slumber party games. Snack on naughty foods, and enjoy a few beers. This is the kind of laid back party theme your girls will love.
Celebrating hens nights for the glorious chance they are: to spend some time with your hen and her best ladies alongside bubbly, cupcakes & many laughs! All in your very own private photo studio with your personal photographer & photoshoot! BYO drinks too! The perfect way to bond with the gals and have the photos to remember it all!
Is Stranger Things on your list of must-watch shows? What about The Office, or Absolutely Fabulous? If your regular ‘girls night in’ involves Netflix, why not make that your party theme. The hens can wear outfits based on their favourite characters, eat food, and play games with a TV theme. This is one of the more popular party themes, because everyone has a favourite television character.
Exclusive for your group only of course, this truly is the best of both worlds: You’ve got your very own private room for the life drawing experience with your hunky naked man, followed by an amazing dinner party at our stunning restaurant! Expect lots of laughs, with a little bit of cheekiness but still alot of class! The perfect package for a classy, foodie hen, who still wants that must-have naughty hens element.
A touch of class: Throwing the ultimate hens party
But all of these things pale into significance when compared to another duty … throwing a fabulous hen’s party worthy of their best girl. It’s an event that sits close to the heart of Gail Konstanciak, whose own adventures in wedding planning led her to set up Whimsy Chuffed, an online store that specialises in classy products for life’s big moment.
She offered some gorgeous and elegant ideas on how to make it unforgettable.
Would you prefer slightly naughtier party themes? Embrace the night-life and the debauchery of the trendiest nightclubs with your girls. Bring out the bling! Wear your heels, and get ready to party. Add a battle of champagne too. The party girls party theme is the perfect night out.
Disney is one of the most popular party themes for good reason. It’s the perfect party idea for every woman who was once a little girl fantasising about dressing like her favourite pretty princess. So, why not give this classic party theme an adult twist? Dress in bling and the perfect dresses just like your favourite princess.
Get crafty and creative with this unique Melbourne hens package! Get the girls together and raise a glass to your hen, whilst grazing on delicious Italian food, sipping on prosecco and getting hands-on with a fresh flower crown workshop! Your flower crown host will make sure your hen and all of her girls are having a wonderful time at our gorgeous venue.
There’s something deliciously decadent about sitting on a lounge drinking champagne and cocktails. And if that’s the kind of celebration your bride likes best, then that’s exactly what you should do. But, with the addition of a little competitive spirit, you can transform the celebration from enjoyable to unforgettable – and help guests work up a thirst in the process.
One idea many brides currently love is a hen’s party treasure hunt, where you divide your guests into groups – with appropriate badges and insignia, of course – and then send them off to find and/or collect a wide range of essential items on a checklist. As per normal, the first team to tick all the boxes wins.
So what could you include? Well, the best advice is to think of things that are a bit quirky. Say the signature of a man with a 1960s moustache, a croissant from a bakery or even a photograph of someone walking their dog. In short, be challenging but not impossible – this is supposed to be fun, remember?
Vintage Party Theme
Are you looking for party themes that are fun and flexible. With a vintage party, you can choose any era you want. Throw on pink poodle skirts for a 1950s party theme. Wear shoulder pads and leggings if you love the 1980s! Don’t forget the classy and sophisticated Jazz Age! That’s the perfect choice to wear vintage bling. Add some games that were popular at the time. Even better, do some research and find the most popular cocktails of the day. You’ll add to the vintage feel of the evening. Whatever you pick, send your email invites early. Let the hens know your party theme ASAP, so they have time to choose the perfect, vintage outfit.
We all know about the kind of games you traditionally find at a hen’s party. Pin the veil on the bride, making a wedding dress from toilet paper, bridal bingo … the list goes on. And the reason these activities have lasted through decades of weddings is because they’re appropriate, inclusive and fun. But who wouldn’t want to up the ante?
Gail certainly would. And she knows exactly how to do it – with a funky innovation called hen’s party scratch cards.
Sourced from America, these DIY kits feature ready made greeting-style cards that come with a purpose-built space in which to write a message. After this is done, the words are then covered by an accompanying golden sticker, which guests can then scratch away.
The idea with the cards is you can use them in a variety of ways, say handing one out to the winner of each game, the idea being that only one will emerge as the ‘golden ticket’ with a fantastic prize. And yes, it can be something a little cheeky.
A picture perfect hens night: her best girls, drinking champers, surrounded by magnificently chiselled men with captivating abs and Tatum-esque talents…the music, the man-candy, the pure gigglyness of it all…and just when your hen is thinking her night of nights can’t get any more fabulous…a sparkly stretch limousine nightlights cruise! Welcome to your hens flawless final fling before the ring!
Even if you’re land-locked, this is one of the most fun and easy party ideas you can pull off. Head over to the party store and choose some great beach-themed decorations. Fire up the grill, and enjoy a night of beachy cocktails and fun with your fellow hens. This is a simple party theme that is perfect for throwing together at the last minute.
One hand on the easel and one hand on the champers- what a perfect start to your bestie’s Hens Party! Enjoy a Private 2 hour Paint n’ Sip experience – complete with sparkling wine, a blank canvas and your artist host – in the comfort of your private gallery space! But the fun doesn’t stop when your masterpieces are completed, it is then time to indulge in an elegant three course Hens Dinner Party to follow!
Help her look the part
There’s a massive difference between a bride-to-be who enjoys a little special attention and one who wants to be at the centre of it. Sometimes it’s about age, sometimes it’s about personality, and sometimes it’s about venue. Fortunately, there’s plenty of ways to cater for both.
For girls who are a little bit shyer, you can skip the traditional veil adornment and instead mark them with a gorgeous rosette that defines their status as a VIP without screaming it to the world. Pop matching designs on the bridal party and, among other things, you have great readymade photo props.
Meanwhile, for engaged girls who are a little bit more comfortable in the spotlight, a bride to be sash always goes down a treat, and is an absolute magnet for a few free cocktails if you settle down at a bar. The trick is to think classy colours and patterns, such as the golden starburst or elegant floral pattern available on Whimsy Chuffed. You know, the kind that will enhance, rather than draw attention away from, the woman of the hour.
Are you in search of party themes with a bit more action? Tell the hens to throw on their comfortable shoes, and choose a partner! A scavenger hunt is a fun alternative to party themes for active gals. Give each team of hens a list of items and activities that they must complete before the end of the night. Here are a few great ideas:
- Get a selfie with a hot dancer
- Try the bar’s signature shot
- Start a conga line
- Drink a black and tan with a local bar fly
- Find a man in a black cowboy hat
There’s nothing wrong with embracing classic party ideas. Choose some fun, customised t-shirts, plan traditional party games, and enjoy drinking and dancing with your best friends. The local party supply store should have everything you need.
Every bride deserves a great hen party with style. Choose any one of the themes above, and your crew is sure to have an amazing night! What are your favourite party ideas?
Shake up your besties hens night with this exclusive Cocktail Making Class & Dinner Party Melbourne package! Kick the soiree off by getting shakealicious creating your own delicious cocktails & noming on irresistible canapés, before teetering to your awaiting Italian Style Hens Dinner Party! Cocktails, scrumptious food & lots of fun, this really is an all inclusive Hens Night gem!
The drinks are flowing, your hot AF topless waiter’s abs are …… delightful, the music is pumping and you’re in your own exclusive space to celebrate your hen in style! Delish party girl platters of food are circulating the room, and just when your hen thinks life couldn’t possibly get better than this incredible Melbourne hens party, it absolutely does… *cue sexy stripper*.
Live past the moment
In amidst all the fun and games, sentimentality absolutely has its place at a hen’s party. This can be via the sharing of stories about the bride or, even more meaningfully, a look forward to her new life. Gail says one lovely idea is to make use of an I Do kit, which has ready made ‘wishes’ cards that are carefully stored in a tin and then a cloth bag. These invite guests to leave predictions such as “I hope you always…” and “I hope you treasure…”
One charming approach is to make a ceremony of it – asking everyone to find a chair before you supply them with a glass of bubbles and encourage them to spend 10 minutes filling theirs out thoughtfully. Depending on guest numbers, you could even give people two cards each – one to fill out from a heartfelt perspective and the other a bit more fun. With this approach, a question such as “I hope you always…” could be answered in two ways. Firstly, with a traditional approach, such as “I hope you always… remember how excited you were to discover he loved all the same classic movies as you” and then, for something cheekier, go with this: “I hope you always… let him get the last words in an argument. As long as those words are ‘Yes dear’.
Private Hens Cruise – with a Topless Waiter!
Welcome to the Ultimate Melbourne Hens Cruise package! Get cruising on your exclusive boat, chartered only for your group of course, whilst sipping on bubbles, served to you by your very own topless waiter! Truly spoil your hen with her own private hen’s party cruise & clink glasses with views of the sparkling water! #perfecthens
Eye Candy Hens High Tea – Melbourne Soiree!
The perfect combination of charming and cheeky fun… A high tea served to your ladies on traditional tiers by impeccable dessert connoisseurs. Mingle with the girls, enjoy a glass of bubbles and sip delicious tea whilst nibbling on an abundance of high tea goodies! Of course we add a little cheeky element with a bachelorette pad for afterwards to host your afternoon hens games and a topless waiter to keep you girls oh so entertained… ooh la la!
The Magnificent Puppetry Hens Party!
Does your Hen love a good laugh? This hens night package is all about the giggles! This risqué-fabulous soiree kicks off with cocktails & a hilarious hens Private Puppetry of the Penis show that will have everyone in hysterics, and continues with a scrumptious share plates and more cocktails in your VIP area to add the perfect sense of occasion to this special final fling! It’s a cheeky hens gem with the perfect amount of sassy girly fun to celebrate your hen’s special day!
Tapas and Tarot Hens Party Melbourne
If your hen is obsessed with the mystical and spiritual art of Tarot reading, is fascinated by psychics and perplexed by astrology just like we are at My Ultimate hens HQ, this is the package for her. Oh, and it is crucial that she loooooves a good tapas feed… but seriously, who doesn’t. A cocktail in hand as you nibble on Asian inspired tapas, and listen to what your future holds.. sounds like the perfect Melbourne hens night to us!
Make it worthy of an online swoon
There’s a reason social media sites such as Pinterest and Instagram are so popular – and that’s the fact people LOVE to look at beautiful photos. In fact you’d probably be hard pressed to find a bride who hadn’t set up a board or two with inspirations for her own big day. With this in mind, take the lesson to heart that appearances matter and put in the time and effort to create a beautiful space with real wow factor.
It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money to do this. In fact Gail says it’s all in the details big and small. One of her favourite touches is Party Picks, which are small messages attached to toothpicks that you can insert into everything from cupcakes to macarons. They’re exactly the sort of thing you would see in an editorial wedding shoot, and help to elevate a sense of style.
Oversized balloons are also on trend right now, as are gorgeous tassels in hues ranging from pastel to metallic. Brides are also loving handmade celebration flags, which are attached to retro stripe and polka dot straws and have messages such as “hooray” and “hen’s party”. They look especially appealing sitting in a mini milk bottle full of Pimms or punch, again enhancing the idea that little touches can have a big impact.
Something else you can also never go wrong with is bunting, especially if it pays tribute to the woman of the hour. Other great decorative ideas include massive paper flowers in vases, mason jars filled with biscuits and candy and, of course, as many awesome but slightly embarrassing photos of the hen as you can find.
Send guests home with more than just their memories
Even more than at a wedding, where she shares the guest list with her groom, the hen’s party is the bride’s chance to celebrate with her very nearest and dearest. So take the opportunity to get photos galore.
One lovely idea would be to snap a bunch of images at the start of the fun, duck down to an office supply store and have copies printed on the spot to share with people as they leave. Another nice way to cap off the celebration in style would be with a beautiful favour – presented in exquisite packaging. You could opt for a gorgeous stiff paper bag tied with ribbon or even an elegant little cardboard box that’s just the right size for a treat such as a ripe pear, peanut brittle or the bride’s favourite chewy lolly.